I would be able to get admission in a good institution, but two years is a long period for me. Guru, I really don’t know what to do. Please help....
I am in a fix
Salam Guru,
I am a 14-year-old girl, and I belong to a middle-class family. I have one brother. Both my parents are working and because of their nature of job, we move from one city to another after every two to three years. Actually, they both work for an NGO where rotation of employees is a routine matter. This NGO has branches all over Pakistan. Since I was a kid, I have been studying in different schools in different cities. I am a bright student, so I never had a problem in adjusting to my new surroundings. My parents have sent my brother to a boarding school so that his studies are not disturbed.
Guru, my problem is that we have recently moved to a new city where there aren’t any good schools. The only good school where I want to study is at a two-hour drive from our house, so going to that school is out of the question. Now, I am left with two options: compromise, and study in one of the sub-standard schools or study at home and prepare for my Matric exams. Guru, I am in a fix. I don’t want to study alone and stay in isolation. I miss my old school. I miss hanging out with my friends. My parents are also worried about me. They have told me that after two years they will be transferred to a big city where I would be able to get admission in a good institution, but two years is a long period for me. Guru, I really don’t know what to do. Please help.
Little Girl
Dear Little Girl,
If you want to mingle with other students, you have to study in one of the not-so-good schools. Since you don’t want to study in isolation, I advise you to get admission in any school near-by. They may not be very good, but you will be able to have a disciplined life and, will also be able to interact socially. You can get a tutor to help you with your studies, if necessary. If you stay at home and study privately, chances are you will get bored easily and lose interest in your studies. My dear, it’s always good to go to a school. It helps young minds in developing interpersonal skills, and the company of girls your age will be an added benefit. Good luck!
My mother is unfair with me
Hello Guru,
I am a fan of your column. I am an 18-year-old girl, and I have two older brothers. I belong to a middle-class family. My mother is a housewife. She takes care of all her children but she does not treat them equally. She gives preference to my brothers over me. They can get away with their tantrums, but she scolds me all the time. She lets my brothers go out wherever they want, but don’t allow me to go out with my friends. She simply refuses and says that girls shouldn’t go out alone. I am sick and tired of her discriminatory attitude towards me. I don’t want to live a restricted life. I also want to go out and have fun. I don’t know how to deal with my mom.
Upset Daughter
Dear Upset Daughter,
Unfortunately, in our society mothers usually give more importance to sons. You really can’t blame your mother because she has been conditioned this way. Like all normal mothers she is also pampering her sons without realising the consequences, but it does not mean she does not love you. If your mother does not allow you to go out that’s probably because she is concerned about your safety. But, she shouldn’t put a complete ban on you. If she knows where you are going and can be assured of your safety, she should trust you. Try to win her trust. In this regard you can take your brothers’ help. Yes, ask your brothers to pick you and drop you. Try to build good relations with your brothers; they can be your best friends.
Guru requests all the mothers out there to please be affectionate towards their daughters as girls are sensitive by nature and can be hurt easily. Good luck
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