I only have a month to prepare for the exams. I don’t know what to do....
I am regretting my decision
Salam Guru,
I regularly read your column and I find your solutions quite helpful. I am a 17-year-old college boy. I am a bright student; I passed Matric with flying colours. I am now in FSC. Though I have chosen to study science subjects, I am not happy with my decision. I feel as if I have committed a blunder by selecting science.
Actually Guru, I am more inclined towards art and literature. Now, I am regretting my decision. I should have opted for FA. My exams are coming up in July and I am not fully prepared. I am not satisfied with my performance.
Let me tell you that my parents are quite liberal and they have never pressurised me to do anything against my will or to study hard. However, my teachers have high hopes from me. They are expecting me to perform well in my exams as I did in Matric. Guru, I am so confused. I am not interested in studying science and yet I have to perform well. I only have a month to prepare for the exams. I don’t know what to do.
Depressed
Dear Depressed
There is nothing to feel depressed about, young boy. I think you took the right decision by taking admission in FSC. You see, you are still not mature enough to decide what you actually want to do in life. Right now, you are interested in literature but after few years, maybe you change your mind and would like to do something else.
Dear, these are your years to learn, explore and experiment. I suggest you to complete your FSC. The point is after FSC, there will be better options for you to choose whatever you like to do. If you change your subjects now, then you will not only waste one precious year but you will also limit your options. In case of doing FA, you are bound to do BA but in case of FSC, you can always opt to do BA or BSC or anything else. You are lucky to have understanding parents who don’t impose their preference on you. So, be focused and start preparing for your exams wholeheartedly. Having said that, don’t take unnecessary pressure from your teachers. As long as you pass your exams with good grades, it’s O.K. You don’t need to show it to the world that you are the best. What matters most is your own mental health and peace. Good luck!
I am an introvert
Hi Guru,
I am a 21-year-old guy. I live in Lahore. My problem is that I am an introvert. And I cannot mingle easily with people. I feel very uncomfortable in crowded places. I don’t have any real friends. According to people, I am very boring. Guru, I am very upset. Do you think my behaviour is normal? Can you suggest me some tips to become friendly? What should I do?
M. A
Dear MA,
There are two types of people in this world: introvert and extrovert. Extroverts are friendly and have no inhibitions in meeting people, whereas introverts are shy by nature and would like to live in their own world. You don’t expect introverts to be friendly so your behaviour is pretty normal.
However, to be socially accepted in the society, you have to bring some changes in your personality. Here are a few tips for you in order to improve your social skills: first of all, you need to come out of your comfort zone and try to initiate small talk with random people.
Take small steps every day, and make sure to keep it up. Try talking to the grocery store man, the waitress, or the guy in line at the coffee shop. The more you do it, the better you’ll get at it. Then start conversing with people you know a little bit. Dare to say what you think, crack a joke, or be the first to tell a story. By becoming better acquainted, you might find some room for common ground. Perhaps you and your neighbour share the same gardening and television interests, or you and your co-worker have pretty similar personalities. Once a fledgling friendship begins to take off, keep it thriving by finding new ways to connect.
Last but not least, I know it’s difficult for introverts to attend a party, but if you must then before you go, take the time to recharge your internal batteries as introverts need quality alone time to feel rested and strong. Good luck!
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