The more ‘secular’ and ‘accepting’ this world becomes, the more it becomes an oyster to be exploited by the pervasive minds...
Dear Diary
When you grow up with time or life using years as a gauge or experiences, you realise that you can either be the person the world moulds you in, like most, or you can fight the norms and question the status quo.
When we read literature, watch films or listen to other people we gather information and integrate it into our system. Some things resonate with us like long lost poetry we thought was only written for us. And some we completely reject because it is just so unfathomable. But to think where does this right of choice root from? Who inculcated within us this insight and conscience? One was the vow our souls took before our Creator prior to occupying this testament of human life. And another is the one we tweak daily to our daily needs and lessons. Our own moral dogma. But there’s no right or wrong to it, is there? The more ‘secular’ and ‘accepting’ this world becomes, the more it becomes an oyster to be exploited by the pervasive minds.
One thing this society taught me was that it was okay to call people names and make fun on their faces. To use their education, status, monetary income, place of birth, physical inadequacies, coping mechanisms and insecurities as something to mock them with. To use their mistakes as the hot topic for gossip. To label them. To think it is all right to say something behind people’s backs which you would otherwise never have the guts to say to their face and laugh it off. It has become so innate and second nature that there is no conversation without belittling someone’s character, professional acumen and personality traits. We so easily pass off insensitive comments and label them as harmless. Because our brought up and schooling and cool kids of the block or influencing member of the society made it okay to do so.
But it’s NOT.
Discussing people regarding matters that have nothing to do with you. Not giving them the benefit of the doubt. Depriving them of the right to speak on their behalf is the highest form of injustice you can practice towards someone. When you don’t extend help towards someone and in return only spew hatred and negativity by speaking ill of their character and convincing the world how malicious they are; it only speaks of your brought up. Or the messed-up beliefs and patterns you learnt growing up and still haven’t questioned them or “unlearnt” these toxic traits.
If you label someone with a mental illness, if you pity someone because they aren’t as well off as you, if you disagree with how someone is professionally, if you are jealous of someone’s status, if you judge someone by their income, then you really need to self-reflect, to think what was the point in time in your life when you decided to be this enlightened in insensitivity and toxic behaviour?
And then you will start to revert. Because I think personally this culture and societal norm of ruthlessly, jokingly and casually passing comments on someone is wrong. The sooner you learn the better. Not only for this lifetime but in what you send out into the world.
