I am a 23-year-old graduate, working in an advertising agency. About two and a half years back I fell in love with my colleague....
I am a victim of love
Dear Guru,
I am a 23-year-old graduate, working in an advertising agency. About two and a half years back I fell in love with my colleague. I was impressed by his looks and charming personality. Then he got interested in some other woman and he ditched me as if I never existed in his life. We broke up two months ago. Since he has left me I have become very edgy and temperamental. I have my mood swings. Guru, I belong to a broken family; my father divorced my mother when I was four years old. The atmosphere in my house has never been happy. I feel so lonely and lost Guru; I don’t have anyone with whom I can share my thoughts. Last week, when my poor mother tried to console me, instead of appreciating her concern, I lost my cool and started yelling at her. I blamed her for my unhappy life. Guru, since the past one week my mother has been quiet. She still cooks for me but she is not talking to me. I feel guilty. What should I do?
Disturbed Girl
Dear Disturbed Girl,
One’s upbringing plays a very important role in building one’s character or personality. Unfortunately you have never had a happy atmosphere at your home which resulted in your affair with a wrong person. Children who don’t get love and affection at home try to find solace outside. You must have been an easy target for that man who conveniently played with your emotions, since you were vulnerable, and ditched you. However, the way you are handling your break-up is not right. Come on, you are a mature girl and you shouldn’t waste your precious time thinking about that loser. You must get on with life and concentrate on your career. First you must apologise to your mother for your rude behaviour. She is the one who has brought you single-handedly and you must pay her due respect. She deserves better treatment from you. I am sure if you say sorry, she’ll forgive you. Good luck!
My depression is my foe
Salam Guru,
I have been in depression since 2016. Actually I wanted to do Civil Engineering but didn’t succeed in getting admission in my desired field in 2015. I couldn’t take the rejection and went into severe depression. I didn’t feel like doing anything and wasted two precious years. Now, I am studying Electrical Engineering (fifth semester) but still depressed. My mind is perpetually surrounded by negative thoughts and I cannot focus on my studies. I know I cannot afford to waste more time. My friends are doing well in their respective fields and I am the only one who is left behind. My parents are also worried about me. I want to get out of my gloomy state of mind. I feel like a loser. I don’t feel like mingling with friends or taking part in outdoor activities. What should I do? Please help.
W in Depression
Dear W in Depression,
Our mental health is just like our physical health and we need to take care of it. It affects how we think, feel and act. If you are constantly feeling helpless or hopeless; having low or no energy; pulling away from people and usual activities; having persistent negative thoughts you can't get out of your head then it clearly shows your poor mental health. Small things like exercising, eating a balanced and healthy meals, opening up to other people in your life, taking a break when you need to, remembering something you are grateful for and getting a good night’s sleep can be helpful in getting you out of depression. And there is no harm in seeking professional help from a good psychologist or therapist who may treat your depression keeping your specific case in mind. And last but not least thank God for all His blessings. Pray as it helps reduce depression and gives immense amount of positive energy. Good luck!
