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Fri, 05, 18

I really love the way you solve teenagers’ problems. I am an-18-year-old girl....

I am in love with a star

Salam Guru,

I really love the way you solve teenagers’ problems. I am an-18-year-old girl, studying in first year, pre medical. I am from a well settled background. All members of our family are highly educated, some are engineers, doctors and some are government officers. Financially I don’t have any problem so you can say my life is smooth. I am quite a likeable girl and there are many boys in my class who want to be friends with me but, Guru, I am not interested in them. Actually, I have fallen in love with Asim Azhar. About two months ago I listened to his songs and watched his videos and I got mesmerised by his looks. Some of my friends tell me that this is only infatuation. I am attracted towards him only because of his looks but my heart says that this is something else. This is true love. How can I approach him? Will he accept me? What should I do? I am truly and madly in love with him. I think about him all the time. It is also affecting my studies. Is there any way I can see him in person? Please help.

Crazy Girl

Dear Crazy Girl,

When you are in your teens you get inspired by all sparkling and beautiful things. It’s but natural to get attracted towards celebrities/stars as they have their own charisma. Since you are at an impressionable age, I am not surprised if you are impressed by Asim Azhar’s charming personality. No doubt he is good looking and is stylish too but it does not mean you can approach him. Yes, you can like him but you cannot have a romantic relationship with him. You need to understand that he is a star and stars have hundreds and thousands of fan following. Naturally all fans want to meet their favourite star. But do you think it is humanly possible for them to meet each one of their fans personally? I am sorry, dear, what you are wishing for is not at all practical. You are asking for too much. You are just being emotional right now. Think rationally, your friends are right; this is just an infatuation and nothing else. Try to divert your mind towards studies. You are in your crucial years of studies. Focus on your career. What you think is love is actually your crush and you will get over it sooner or later. Good luck!

I am fed up with my father

Hi Guru,

I am in O level and I would like to discuss with you a problem. Actually, my family members are very irritating .My father is very strict and his attitude towards me is very harsh. He keeps a vigilant eye on me and is always interfering in my affairs. There is no privacy. He often tells me stuff to do and in lieu of that work he promises to buy gifts for me like videogames and mobile. But he never honours his words and gives me nothing. When I try to remind him of his commitment he just ignores me and when I insist he starts beating me up. My pocket money is also very meagre, although my father earns a lot. I cannot tolerate my miserly father anymore. Tell me, what should I do?

Depressed Leo

Dear Depressed Leo,

First you need to change your thinking pattern. You assume your family as your enemy which is very wrong on your part. Your father is not your enemy; he is your well wisher. As a responsible father he takes care of all your needs. Since you are not mature, he has to keep an eye on your activities which all parents do. Of course he cannot give you a free hand to do whatever you like. Once you finish your studies or when you are financially independent, you can lead your life according to your choice. As long as you live with your father you have to obey his rules and you have to pay him respect. So what if you do some work for him. You should not be greedy and expect a gift every time you do something for your father. That’s being selfish on your part. Your father is not a miser. He is a sensible person who does not want you to get spoiled. Yes, I do agree with you. He should not be harsh with you and should not beat you and should refrain from making promises he can’t uphold.

Try to communicate with him in a friendly manner and try not to give him any chance to be angry with you. You have no idea how precious fathers are. Just throw out all your negative thoughts and try to understand your father. You’ll feel much better and I am sure his behaviour will also change towards you.

Good luck!

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