I am a great fan of your column. This is the first time I am writing to you. I am a student of second year.
His erratic behaviour is bothering me
Dear Guru,
I am a great fan of your column. This is the first time I am writing to you. I am a student of second year. I belong to a middle-class family. When I was in class X, I had an affair with H. H introduced me to his best friend, M, and then the three of us became very good friends. But something happened between H and I and we broke up after some time. I was shattered, but at that time M gave me moral support and without even realising I got close to M. Now, we have been in a relationship for the past few months. But there is a big confusion which is related to M’s erratic behaviour. At times he would treat me nicely and then later he would just ignore me. Of late, I have come to know that he is a flirt too and this thing has been bothering me. He says that he would never leave me but sometimes he just disappears for days. Guru, I am so confused. I don’t know whether he is really serious and loves me or he is just flirting. I don’t want to be cheated again and again.
Confused Girl
Dear Confused Girl,
I don’t understand why you are so naive. You tasted love once and it turned out sore. Why are you insisting on hurting yourself repeatedly? I am not saying that you should not fall in love again at all but what I am suggesting is that you need to be very careful before taking any emotional decision. Give yourself some time. Have a break - for like two years. You are still too young to indulge in a serious relationship. M’s incoherent behaviour also implies that he takes you for granted. He comes to you whenever he feels like and disappears from your life as he pleases. He is not at all dependable. He knows you love him and no wonder he is taking undue advantage of your weakness. So, don’t repeat the same mistake of trusting him. Leave him now and save yourself from getting hurt. And one more advice: keep your beautiful emotions for someone who can reciprocate your feelings. Good luck!
Becoming a teacher is my dream
Hi Guru,
I like the way you solve people’s problems. You have a unique way of handling issues. I am a 28-year-old commerce graduate. I am working in a private firm as an office assistant. These days, I am also learning English language as I want to improve my communication skills. The problem is there is no job satisfaction. My job is monotonous. I want to do something which is close to my heart and teaching is something which I am really interested in. But, I am shy by nature. I am not confident enough to face people and I know in teaching you have to have good interpersonal skills. Becoming a teacher is my dream. Tell me how to go about it. Can you please guide me?
Aspiring Teacher
Dear Aspiring Teacher,
It’s good that you want to improve your skills. This is a very positive attitude and it shows your willingness to do better in life. If teaching is your dream job then you should get proper professional educational to become an outstanding teacher. And for that you have to do B.Ed (Bachelor of Education) which is an undergraduate professional degree which prepares students for work as a teacher in schools. You must get this degree even before you apply for a teaching job because it is mandatory for those who want to join any government or reputable private school as teacher in Pakistan or abroad. The duration of B.Ed course varies from one year to four years in different universities. Since you are already a graduate, you may apply to one of your chosen universities to enrol yourself in a B.Ed programme. Also, go on different website and collect all the necessary info.
And don’t worry; you will gain confidence with the passage of time. B.Ed courses are especially designed to prepare students to become qualified teachers and also to enhance their confidence and self-esteem. Once you start teaching and start interacting with kids, your shyness will go away naturally. And think hard before doing B.Ed as it is not easy and teaching is not a lucrative job. So think of pros and cons of this profession logically and with a cool mind before taking any drastic step. And a word of advice: don’t leave your present job unless you are sure about your future plans. If you have already made up your mind, go ahead and give teaching a try. Good luck!
