I don’t really know how to make her realise that I love her, and want to marry her. What should I do?
My teacher doesn’t love me
Salam Guru,
I am a 17-year-old high school student. I had to get tuition for Add Maths, as my maths teacher in the school is not really good. She is very strict and mean, and most of the students are very scared of
her. My tuition teacher teaches us in batches of five students and is exceptionally good. She is very sympathetic and caring, and all her students like her a lot. She is in her twenties, I think, and is very pretty. Guru, I have fallen in love with her, but I think she doesn’t return my love. I tried to express my love by giving her presents, but she wasn’t impressed and even scolded me once because she thought I had given her my mother’s perfume. She told me to take it back and put it on my mother’s dressing table, which broke my heart. I felt embarrassed but my monthly allowance is not enough to buy a decent present for her. I don’t really know how to make her realise that I love her, and want to marry her. What should I do?
Teen in Love
Dear Teen in Love,
It is very easy for students to develop a crush on their teachers, especially if the teacher in question is good looking and friendly. Students become fond of their teachers and confuse this fondness with
love, but what they fail to realise is that their teachers’ avuncular attitude stems from thinking of them as their charges only. So, you are totally right in thinking she doesn’t love you in a romantic way, but I am sure she is very fond of you. She returned your present because she is a conscientious person, and good teachers don’t accept expensive presents from their students.
My dear, your other maths teacher is very strict and you don’t like her, so when you got this very proper teacher who is not strict, you naturally developed a strong liking for her and confused it with love.
Right now, you are a high school student and should apply yourself seriously to your studies, because you will need good grades to get into a reputable college. Show your regard to your teacher by making cards for her yourself instead of buying them. I am sure she would appreciate your effort way more than the presents you gave her before. And, if you really like her, make her proud by doing exceptionally well in the subject she teaches you.
Good luck!
Dear Guru,
I am a 14-year-old girl, and my problem is my parents want me to become a doctor. Guru, both my parents are doctors and they want me to become one, too, but I am not interested in science subjects; in fact, I hate science. In the school I study, you can only take the science group if you get 65 percent marks in Science and I usually just scrape through in my tests. On the other hand, I score well in history and languages, and I love to paint. I have a good memory and can learn stuff by heart and reproduce it in exams, but that’s not what I want. I don’t want to disappoint my parents, either; I love them very much. So how can I tell them that I want to become a lawyer or a teacher?
Help me!
Worried Daisy
Dear Worried Daisy,
It’s a very good thing that you care so much about your parents’ feelings, but you should know that your parents also care about your feelings, your likes and dislikes. Parents want what they think is
the best career for their children, and your parents probably feel that becoming a doctor is your best option. Talk to them about your choices and tell them about your aversion to science. Your parents are intelligent and mature people and would not want you to study the subjects you dislike so much.
When you talk to your parents, point out you would excel in subjects you like because your heart would be in it. Hopefully, they will let you select subjects you want to study.
Best of luck
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