There is nothing to be so upset about. What you consider ‘problem’ is not actually a problem. It is just your way of looking at things in a negative manner....
I want to live in peace
Hello Guru,
I am a happy-go-lucky person. My parents have provided me with every material comfort. However, I am still unhappy! Actually I happen to live with my grandparents and they always interfere in my personal affairs and keep a vigilant eye on my activities. They always criticise me unnecessarily on trivial issues. If I get up late, they have an issue; if I come home late, they have an issue; if I order food, they have an issue; if I listen to songs on full volume, they have an issue. They have made my life miserable.
Moreover, my little sister is also very annoying. She is really stubborn and is a big drama queen. My grandparents never favour me and always take her side. I have discussed my problem with my parents, but they say I am just too sensitive. Guru, I am so fed up. I want to live my life peacefully without any interference. Please tell me what I should do.
Angry Bird
Dear Angry Bird,
There is nothing to be so upset about. What you consider ‘problem’ is not actually a problem. It is just your way of looking at things in a negative manner.
First of all, you need to understand that your grandparents are not your enemy. They love you but their way of expressing their love is different. Like all elders they also want you to keep healthy habits. Getting up late in any case is not a good habit and ordering junk food from outside is also unhealthy. Also, I don’t blame them if they tell you to come home early given the present law and order situation. And try to think for a minute how you feel when you’re asleep and someone plays loud music. Isn’t it irritating? So, be gentle and polite with your grandparents. You are lucky that you have people around you who care about you. Your parents are right. You are just overreacting.
As far as your little sister is concerned, my only advice to you is be patient. She is your little sister, have a big heart. Enjoy her pranks. There is no point losing your cool over trivial matters. Your peace is in your own hands. If you want to live in peace then you have to change your outlook. Think positively; when you look at things from a different perspective you will also feel light and relaxed. Thank God for giving you a family and good life!
Should I accept his proposal?
Salam Guru,
I am a great fan of your column. I am 25 years old. I am a graduate and have been working in an insurance company as a junior executive for three years. I belong to a middle class family.
Guru, I am an ordinary looking girl but I am confident and smart and am quite popular among my friends and colleagues. Now, the problem is that there is this guy F who is really interested in me. He is on a senior position in our company and is from a good family. F is very decent and he never tried to flirt with me. He asked me simply if I am interested in marrying him. I like him too Guru, but there is a hitch. He is a divorcee. His marriage lasted three years only. He has no kids. I know I will be having a good life considering that he is well-settled but I am a little apprehensive. He is a divorcee and this thing is bothering me. Should I accept his proposal?
Confused Girl
Dear Confused Girl,
Don’t think too much dear. F seems like a suitable guy for you. You already like him and you have this feeling that you will be happy with him. I see no harm in accepting his proposal.
So what if he is a divorcee? It is not a crime to be a divorcee. And that’s his past so why worry about something which happened years ago? However, if you have some issues regarding his divorce, talk to F openly about it. But a word of advice, don’t reject this proposal just because he is a divorcee. The final decision is yours. Good luck!
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