Should I give up my dream?
I am a 19-year-old girl. I am from KP (Khyber Pakhtunkhwa). I am a brilliant student and I have just passed ETEA test and secured high marks in it. Now, I can get admission in Khyber Girls Medical College (KGMC), Peshawar which is the top medical college in KP. I am really excited and am looking forward to study there but my mom is not letting me go. Since we live in Kohat, my mom wants me to take admission in Khyber Medical College/Khyber Institute of Medical Sciences (KIMS), Kohat, instead of KGMC. Actually, I am the only daughter of my parents and my mom does not want me to go to Peshawar and live in a hostel. She says that she will be very lonely without me. Guru, I am facing a tough dilemma here. Studying in KGMC is my dream, but I really don’t know what to do now. Should I sacrifice my dream or should I persuade my mom to let me go? I need to make a quick decision.
Depressed Future Doctor
Dear Depressed Future Doctor,
Sometimes one has to make tough choices in life. On the one hand you have your aspirations and on the other hand you have your mom’s expectations. She expects you to stay with her and study in Kohat whereas you want to study in Peshawar. If you look at things from your mom’s point of view, you will find her right. It’s not easy for a mother to let go of her children and since you are her only child, the idea of sending you away must be painful for her. Right now, she is being very emotional, but realistically speaking she needs to understand that it’s your time to explore and see the world on your own. Living in a hostel will give you added confidence and of course studying in the best medical college will enhance your chances of having a bright future. I suggest you persuade your mom with reason and logic. Ask her what she would do when you get married? Then also she will have to live without you. And then Peshawar is not very far from Kohat. You can always visit your mother on weekends or during your holidays. Don’t feel depressed, talk to her when she is in a good mood; I am sure she will give you permission to go to Peshawar. Don’t give up girl, chase your dream! Good luck
I am a victim of love
I am a 24-year- old guy. I am a great fan of your column. You have a unique way of solving young people’s problems. I am a landlord so I don’t need to worry about my future. Money is not an issue. I have all the material comfort in life except for one – I miss love in my life. Guru, I was in a deep relationship with a very beautiful girl, Z. I was in love with her to the point that I wanted to gift her some portion of my land but due to some documentation and formalities I couldn’t do it. And one fine day she left me without any rhyme or reason. Guru, it’s been more than two months that she has left me and since then I have been so depressed. I have also come to know that she is having an affair with some rich guy. Guru, she used to tell me that she would never leave me but she turned out to be a heart breaker. Guru, though she has ditched me I still love her and want her back in my life. Please tell me what I should do.
Dear Dejected Boy,
Wake up from your slumber, young man. The girl has gone and she has gone forever. Why are you still chasing her? Actually, she was only having good times at your expense. She was beautiful and she knew it and took advantage of her asset. She was eyeing your property and when she had the idea that she wasn’t going to gain anything soon, she ditched you and found another rich fool. You see, there are all types of people in this world – some are honest, some are cheaters, some are sincere, some are liars and there is no gender discrimination. Women are as clever as men and they can be flirt, too, like men. So, my dear, in your case, you were sincere but she wasn’t. Now, the picture is clear. You shouldn’t waste your precious time and try to forget her as a beautiful dream. Good luck!
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