I am a regular reader of your column. Guru, I have a friend M. I have known her for eight years now....
I want to give her all the happiness in life
Dear Guru,
I am a regular reader of your column. Guru, I have a friend M. I have known her for eight years now. We are very good friends and she shares her secrets with me.
Guru, I fell for her when I was 14 but I never got the courage to reveal my true feelings. I am still in love with her. I am willing to give her all the happiness in life but I am afraid that if I disclose my feelings to her she may refuse.
Actually, after two breakups she does not want a relationship with anyone. How can I make her believe that I will not ditch her? Please tell me what to do.
Worried Friend
Dear Worried Friend,
M does not want to get into a relationship because she is hurt. And I don’t blame her. It’s so understandable. Right now she is in a very sensitive mode. So, I suggest you to be a little patient; give her some time to settle down emotionally and then tell her how you actually feel about her. She knows that you are a genuine person and she confides in you so I don’t think she will get mad at you if you reveal your feelings to her. See, you are no stranger to her, so there is no reason for her to get upset. You don’t need to give her any assurance about your loyalty as you have been friends with her since eight years. And eight years are long enough to know someone. So, give it a shot. There is no harm in trying. In any case, you have nothing to lose. Good luck!
I want to have a comfortable life
Hi Guru,
I am a 25-year-old girl. I am beautiful. I have done my masters and now I am teaching in a school. I belong to a middle class family. I have two older sisters who are happily married with kids. My other cousins, who are my age, are either married or are getting engaged. Guru, I am the only one in my family who is single. It’s not that no one wants to marry me. There are few proposals for me but all the guys are so plain looking with normal jobs.
Actually, Guru, I want to live a luxurious life and for that I have to marry someone rich. My mother says that I am being ungrateful and I should choose one from all these ‘rishtas’. But Guru, I don’t want to compromise. Tell me whether I am wrong.
Beautiful Spinster
Dear Beautiful Spinster
There is nothing wrong in having a comfortable life but dear you need to accept the realities of life. You are 25 and it’s a good age to get married. Your mother is right you are being ungrateful.
It’s usually in the movies that a rich guy falls for a beautiful girl who is not from his class. I don’t think your potential candidates are as bad as you assume they are. Mind you, in marriage what matters most is love and understanding between partners and money and looks are secondary. Just listen to your mother and start a new life with an open mind. You never know what God has store in for you. Good luck!
He is so weak
Salaam Guru,
I am a 20-year-old girl and am madly in love with a guy who loves me too. The issue is that he can’t marry me because he doesn’t want to go against his parent’s wishes. His mother is aware of our relationship but says that she would never let her son marry someone of his own choice. My boyfriend is scared of taking a stand. I am so mad at him. What should I do?
Angry Girl
Dear Angry Girl,
When you know that your boyfriend is so weak then what is the point of prolonging this relationship? Just remember weak persons miserably fail when it comes to real life relationships as they do not have the courage to face situations. Maybe your boyfriend is the nicest person around but who wants a nice but spineless guy. The guy has already told you clearly that he would not go against his parents’ wishes. Girl, think realistically; if you still hang out with him, then you are only going to hurt yourself in the end. It’s better if you leave him now. Good luck!
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