My boyfriend has broken up with me
I find your column really amazing. I am a 20-year-old girl and doing BBA from one of the elitist business schools of Karachi. My father is a doctor and my mother is an architect. Both my parents are very liberal minded. Guru, I happen to be a fashionable girl and I love wearing bright colours and modern clothes. Guru, my problem is that I have a boy friend H who is quite old-fashioned. He really loves me but always has an issue with my clothing and looks. Two months ago, I dyed my hair purple (basically streaking) as it’s in fashion. I was really looking stylish but H did not like it. He wanted me to get rid of my purple hair. Guru, I spent so much money on it. I told him that it would go lighter in few months’ time but it really made him mad and he broke up with me. Now it’s been six weeks that he has been acting weird. I have been trying hard to contact him but he is not answering my calls. I am so upset. I truly love him but now I am having second thoughts. Do you think he is good enough for me or should I just leave him?
Dear Uptown Girl,
It seems that your boyfriend was not even serious with you in the first place as dying your hair is not a very good reason to break up. It seems as he just needed an excuse to abandon you. You just dyed your hair, you didn’t commit any crime. Had he loved you he would not have left you on such a petty issue. I think it’s a signal for you to know that he cannot go along with you in the long run. See, you are a fashionable girl and he is an old fashioned guy and in a long term relationship it is very important to have a like minded partner. Sadly, I see little chemistry between both of you. So, it’s better to close this chapter now than to regret later. Good luck!
I want to have some fun
I am a regular reader of your column. I am a 15-year-old girl and studying in grade eight in a well established school. I belong to a middle class family. My parents promised to take me to Northen Areas during my summer holidays but now they are saying that they will take me next year as this year they have some financial issues. I understand their problem but Guru I get bored at home. I am the only child of my parents, so there is no one to give me company or play with me. I want to have some fun in life. What should I do?
Dear Bored Girl,
During summer vacations most kids don’t know what to do with so much time on their hands. Instead of grumbling about not having fun, why don’t you spend your time in some constructive activities? You can always help your mother in household chores. That way she’ll be pleased with you and you can also utilise your time in a productive manner. And hey, this is a good time for you to read books and enhance your knowledge. If you get bored, you can also watch your favourite movies on the net or you can call your cousins over or go to their place and do some fun activities together!
My friends cracks jokes at my expense
I am one of your biggest fans. Your way of handing teenagers’ problems is just so cool. I am writing it to you in anticipation that you will also solve my problem. Guru, actually my problem is my friends. I really enjoy their company as they are witty, but they never miss a chance to make fun of me in front of others and that really embarrasses me. When I share my feelings with them, they say that they were just joking. They assume that I am being over sensitive. I don’t want to lose my friends but at the same time I don’t like it when they target me. What should I do?
If you are not comfortable with your friends then you should not put up with their impoliteness. It seems as if they don’t care about your feelings and have fun at your expense. So what if they are witty and interesting, it does not give them a license to ridicule people. So, please don’t provide them any more chance to ridicule you. They are not your real friends. Slowly and gradually, just distance yourself from them. And try to find friends who pay you regard and respect you for who you are. Good luck!
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