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I am on sale

Salam Guru,

I am a 26-year-old guy from Karachi. I am a B.Com graduate and have been working in a private firm as an accountant for the last five years. I wanted to do MBA but due to some circumstances I couldn’t get admission in a reputable institute. My father is a retired government officer and I have two sisters. My father gets monthly pension and I give a big chunk of my salary to my mother so that she can run the house smoothly. But you know, Guru, in these times of inflation it is difficult to make both ends meet.

Now the problem is that my boss’s daughter A is interested in me. She often comes to our office and is really inspired by my good looks and decency. My boss also likes me as I am an efficient worker. My boss has recently given me a hint that he would like me to marry his daughter, as she is very fond of me. It is a good proposal and in case of marrying A, all my financial worries will be solved. This marriage will also raise my social status in the society.

But the issue is that my boss wants me to become ‘ghar damaad’. A is his only daughter and he wants me to shift to their house in Defence after marriage. Now, I am in a tricky situation. I don’t want to leave my parents and family. But, on the other hand, I don’t want to turn down such a lucrative proposal. Sometimes I think ‘I am on sale’ and sometimes I think it’s okay because I am in a fix. What should I do?

Bargain Boy

Dear Bargain Boy,

For most of us, life is tough. We all have to make tough choices in life. I can understand your situation. You are going through mixed feelings. On the one hand, you have your struggles but on the other hand a bright career and a comfortable life is waiting for you in case you marry A. But, as they say, there is no such thing as a free lunch, meaning you cannot get something for nothing; there is always a cost for something you want. So you will have to pay the heavy price of becoming their ‘ghar dammad’. And then all your life you will have to take your father-in-law’s dictation and your wife will always have the upper hand. So, be mentally prepared this situation that might embarrass you all your life.

However, if you want to live with dignity then refuse this proposal and live your life on your own terms. You have to pick between self respect and luxury. You are young and hard working. I think you have the potential to build your own career so why do you want this submissive status? Think about your parents. Your father-in-law has buying power and he can buy someone else for his daughter. But what about you? You are also the only son of your parents. Do you think it will be easy for them to live without you? Having said that, at the end of the day, the final decision is yours. Good luck!

My friend has leaked my secret

Dear Guru,

I am a 19-year-old girl. I study in one of the prestigious colleges of Karachi. I belong to an affluent family and I have many friends in the college. But, my problem is related to my best friend, D, who has been my friend since school days. We used to share secrets and she was my confidant.

Guru, there was this guy, H on whom I had a huge crush when I was in class 9. I was 14 then. Fast forward to the present, H has gone somewhere and now I am really attracted towards another guy, B. Apparently D also likes B so out of jealousy she told B about my little secret. Now B has stopped talking to me and D took it as an opportunity to become close to B. I am so upset. What should I do?

Desperate Girl

Dear Desperate Girl,

Crushes are a part of life. You were only 14 when you had your first crush. Your friend D should not have told your little secret to B. Now, that you are aware of the vindictive nature of D, just be careful with her in future and don’t tell her your secrets. Don’t worry about losing B. You were not having an affair with him. Let D enjoys her moments with B as this thing will not last long, too. Meanwhile, try to focus on your studies. Good luck!

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