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Fri, 10, 18

I am 23 years old. I am a student of M.Sc Chemistry. I like your way of solving problems.....

She is my dream girl

Salam Guru,

I am 23 years old. I am a student of M.Sc Chemistry. I like your way of solving problems. Guru, there is a girl ‘F’ in my class. I really like her and want to marry her. She is very beautiful and good natured. She is the type of girl I have been searching for years. But the problem is that she belongs to another caste and is already engaged to her cousin who is well-settled. However, I want to take the risk and reveal my feelings to her. Do you think I should talk to her? She is my dream girl, but I am reluctant to talk to her. I am confused. What should I do?

Poor Chemist

Dear Poor Chemist,

I really respect your feelings but, dear, you need to think realistically. The girl is already engaged to a well-settled guy whereas you still have to make your future. Secondly, she belongs to a different caste and this is another big hindrance. So, you just cannot ignore both these strong factors. And, above all, this girl is clueless about your feelings. You are not even sure whether she likes you or not. So, my advice to you: don’t take the risk of talking to her and forget about your dream girl like a sweet dream. And don’t lose heart. You never know what’s in store for you. Good luck!

I feel like a prisoner

Dear Guru,

I am a 15-year-old girl. I belong to a middle class family. My main problem is my parents who happen to be really strict. All the other girls go to parks but my parents don’t even allow me to go for a walk, though we live in a secure Cantt area. I am a teenager now but still I am not allowed to watch movies or listen to songs. I always get scolded if I forget to cover my head when I go out. I envy other girls who play and enjoy life whereas I am robbed of enjoying the simple pleasures in life like walking and watching TV. I feel like a prisoner. I am really fed up with my life. Please help me.

Confined Girl

Dear Confined Girl,

I feel so sorry for you. At your age you should feel like a free bird and not like a prisoner. Most parents feel responsible for their children, but some parents go overboard. Your parents’ overprotective behaviour with you is not good for your mental health and emotional well-being. They need to understand that you also want to play and enjoy life. I suggest you talk to the elders in your family (like your grandma or aunt or someone you feel close to) and tell them to persuade your parents to be a bit lenient with you. And you should also try to talk to them when they are in good mood and discuss your issue without being rude to them. Hopefully, they will understand. Good luck!

I cry over little things

Hi Guru,

I am 23 years old. I am a great fan of Us magazine and I regularly read your section. The way you handle problems is very impressive. Guru, my problem is related to my mental state. I am a very emotional girl. I cry over little things. If I watch an emotional scene in a movie I become sentimental. If I watch some heartbreaking news, I remain sad for days. If someone scolds me, it brings tears to my eyes. My mother says if I keep reacting like this, it will be difficult for me to live a normal life. What should I do?

Desperate Soul

Dear Desperate Soul,

Being emotional is normal! All of us get sad or feel upset occasionally. However, emotionally strong people tend to live their lives normally as they know the art of controlling their emotions. On the other hand, emotionally weak people find it difficult to control their feelings. It seems you are an emotionally weak person. My dear, you are 23 and there is a long life ahead of you. Your mother is right. If you cry on little and irrelevant things all the time then how will you face real-life challenges? The best thing you can do is get involved in some creative activity. Keep yourself busy. When your mind is constantly engaged or pre-occupied, you will hardly get any time to think about non issues.

Good luck!

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