I’ve come to realize that even when it feels like the HR department isn’t necessarily the superhero we hope for, reporting issues is an important first step. I may not have seen immediate results, but I’ve learned that taking action, regardless of the outcome, is crucial. It’s like planting seeds and believing they’ll bloom in the long run.
Lately, I’ve been actively moving around the office, seeking out those individuals who are willing to offer a simple hi or hello. Small gestures like these can make a world of difference in an environment filled with toxicity. I’ve been fortunate to come across one person who has a friendly attitude and is very easy to talk to. I gave her chocolates on her birthday to open up. We’ve struck up a friendship, and she told me not to quit until I find an opportunity that’s significantly better than the current situation, and to go for it without hesitation whenever that opportunity presents itself.
I make sure to find time to chat with my newfound friend. Her words have a comforting effect. She reminds me not to doubt myself and assures me that the negative feedback I receive is often baseless, fuelled by ego rather than truth. These conversations have become my source of fresh air amidst the toxicity of my workplace.
However, there’s a twist in this story. My friend’s boss apparently has issues with my boss, and because of this, she’s been discouraged from spending time with me. What kind of world do we live in, where even harmless friendships are being controlled by such forces?
In the absence of friends who lend their ears for support, workplaces can be nightmarish. I do have a few colleagues on my team, but they all have their own lives and concerns, making it challenging to open up to them or expect complete understanding. It’s a harsh reminder that true confidants at work are rare gems.
This situation leaves me pondering the age-old question: should I seek new job opportunities and move on, or should I continue to be resilient and persevere in my current role? It’s a dilemma that weighs heavily on my mind. Is it time to cut ties with the toxicity and venture into the unknown? Or should I stay and try to make a positive change, no matter how daunting the task?
As I pen down these thoughts, I’m reminded that life is a journey filled with choices and challenges. The support and understanding we receive from those around us can make all the difference in the world.
This is part of a diary series on dealing with bullying at work.