I have read a lot of your responses in Us magazine and I am really inspired by the way you respond to people....
I am in a tricky situation
Hello Guru,
I have read a lot of your responses in Us magazine and I am really inspired by the way you respond to people’s issue. My issue is that I don’t feel like studying these days although I have my exams coming up in less than a month. I am good in studies but somehow my interest is not developing in creating a daily time table to prepare for my exams. I am so lazy these days that I fear that I might not pass my exams and will not make my parents proud. But the most frightening thing is that my parents have strictly told me that if I fail I should be ready to kill all my dreams of doing Masters and getting a job because they’ll marry me off to my cousin. Guru, help me because I loathe my cousin and we have a big age difference. He is eight years older than me and my parents think it is not a big issue. I really want to focus on my studies, but I am constantly distracted by TV dramas and series. Guru, I am heavily relying on your advice. I am in a tricky situation.
The Distracted Girl
Dear Distracted Girl,
If you are serious about your career then you have to take interest in your studies. Being lazy is no excuse. You know that you have to study hard as your exams are approaching. You cannot blame TV as the remote control is in your hands. Just switch off the TV or sit in another room if others are watching it. Try to follow a regular time table. I am not telling you to study 10 or 12 hours a day but you can easily study 6-7 hours a day. Keep 2 -3 hours for recreation in which you can watch TV. Just divide your time judiciously. If you don’t study well now, then you won’t be able to get admission in university. Your parents are right. Why would they spend their hard-earned money on the education of their daughter’s who is just too lazy and is simply not showing any interest in studies? It’s better if they marry you off. Now, the ball is in your court – don’t study and get married or study well and make your life the way you want it to be! If you don’t want to marry your cousin then you are left with only one choice – study hard. There is no alternative. Good luck!
I am in love with myself
Dear Guru,
I am a regular reader of your column and I love your unique way of solving issues. I am a 15-year-old girl. I belong to a well off family and am studying in one of the prestigious schools of Islamabad. I am a beautiful girl and I have many admirers. But my problem is in my spare time I find myself walking past mirrors a lot, and my family members have also noticed it. The truth is that I am in love with myself; I love the sight of my own body. I admit that I like to see my pretty face in the mirror. The downside of this thing is that slowly and gradually I am losing my friends. They make fun of me for being obsessed with my looks all the time. Though I enjoy their company, I get distracted whenever I see a mirror and unintentionally I start looking myself in the mirror; this habit of mine irritates my friends. I don’t blame them, Guru, but this habit of mine (self-indulgence) is bothering me a lot. I am in love with a boy ‘S’ but he does not know I am interested in him because I spend so much time with myself. What should I do?
Vain Girl
Dear Vain Girl,
Normally, beautiful people do get compliments on their looks and they take it as a matter of fact. Not all, but some people go overboard and think the world revolves around them. Such people are excessively obsessed with their looks and are called narcissists. Sadly, you are one of them. But the good part is that you are realising your weakness and want to do something about it. Being obsessed with yourself at such a young age is not healthy; it may distract you from your studies. If you don’t want to lose your friends then try to make a conscious effort to pay attention to them when you are with them. Try to avoid looking at yourself in the mirrors as much as you can. Take interest in house chores and get involved in constructive activities. When you are physically and mentally occupied, you hardly get time to look at yourself in the mirror. As far as your love interest is concerned. I advise not to get involved romantically with anyone. You are too young for that. Good luck!
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