I am feeling guilty
I am a regular reader of your column. I am a 16-year-old boy, studying in one of the prestigious schools of Lahore. I belong to a middle-class family. I have two other siblings. My father works in UAE. Every month he sends a handsome amount of money to my mom for running our home. We all live comfortably because of our father. He comes to visit us after every six months for two weeks. He visited us last December and gave me a brand-new mobile as a gift for my birthday.
Unfortunately, someone stole my mobile in school a few days back. Though my father had instructed me not to take my mobile to school, I did not listen to him. Now I am feeling very guilty, but I am too scared of my father to tell him this. What should I do? Should I tell my father and face the music or should I get loan from my friends to get a new mobile? In this way my father would not come to know about my stolen mobile. But I don’t want to cheat my father. I am so mentally disturbed. Please help me.
Dear Guilty Me,
I think there is no point hiding the truth from your father. He has the right to know what has happened with your mobile. If you take loan from your friends, then you have to pay them back, too, and I don’t think you can do this from your pocket money. So, it’s better to take your father in confidence. Initially, he will get mad at you but hopefully he’ll appreciate your honesty and will forgive you. In future, please be careful and try to follow your elders’ advice.
She has not accepted my friendship request
I am a 23-year-old graduate guy. I work in a private organisation. Guru, I am in love with a colleague of mine, S. She is very pretty, but she always ignores me. I have sent her friendship request via Facebook but she has rejected my request. Should I send her my request again? I am so depressed. I don’t know how to win her heart. Please help.
Dear Silent Admirer,
My sympathies are with you but, you need to understand that you simply cannot force anyone to like you. The girl has rejected your friend’s request which clearly shows that she is not interested in you. There is nothing to be depressed about as the girl has not betrayed you or has broken your heart. You are a grown-up man and you should accept the rejection gracefully. Stop chasing her and get a life of your own. Take interest in your own activities and friends who care about you.
I feel hesitant in strike a conversation with elders
I am a 14-year-old girl. I study in class nine in a prestigious school. I have a nice and loving family. I talk comfortably with my class fellows but when it comes to talking to the elders of my family, I don’t know what to talk about. I feel hesitant in striking a conversation with elders. Somehow, I can’t relate to them. Is there something wrong with me? Please help.
Dear Wonder Girl,
When you are in your teens, you feel more comfortable with your own age group. This is your age when you are curious about many things and want to explore and you find it easier to talk about your anxieties with your peers - not with your family. There is nothing wrong with you. One of the reasons you don’t seem relate to them is that you are quite young and it has also got to do with your interests and I guess there is hardly anything common to talk about.
With the passage of time, you will grow older and attain maturity. Then you’ll be able to communicate with your elders and relatives with ease.
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