I am a 17-year-old boy and I’m studying in one of the best colleges of town. I am a student of first year. My problem is that when I study a topic or a chapter and move on to the next chapter, I forget the previous one.
I don’t remember
Hi Guru,
I am a 17-year-old boy and I’m studying in one of the best colleges of town. I am a student of first year. My problem is that when I study a topic or a chapter and move on to the next chapter, I forget the previous one. Our course is very tough and my exams are also forthcoming. I am not fully prepared for the exams. I am not weak in studies; it’s just that it is difficult for me to memorize. Please suggest me few easy tips. What should I do to improve my learning skills?
Confused Reader
Dear Confused Reader,
Your problem is quite common as there are hundreds of students like you who find it difficult to memorize. However, with few learning tricks you will be able to read and remember your chapters smoothly. Here are a few easy tips that will help you in your studies:
* When you sit down to study, make sure there aren’t any disturbances around that may hamper your concentration. For instance, don’t study in a room where the T.V. is on or people are talking. You can’t memorise something if your mind is distracted with something else.
* After you finish a chapter, jot down the important points in a separate notebook. This will help you in remembering what you read. Do you know that all TV-show hosts use small flashcards to help them remember the content of the show? This is a proven method to bring back forgotten stuff swiftly.
* Instead of simply memorising the whole chapter, try to understand it. Read in short segments (a few paragraphs or a few pages, depending on content density), all the while thinking about and paraphrasing the meaning of what is written. If you read something with interest, there are brighter chances that you will remember it later.
* Try to play crosswords and puzzle games in your leisure time. This will help in sharpening your mind and your brain will work faster. Good luck!
My father does not treat me fairly
Dear Guru,
I read your column and like the way you solve problems. I am a 13-year-old student studying in a prestigious school. Guru, my problem is my father. He earns well, but he does not treat his kids fairly. Recently, he bought a tablet for my younger sister (who is six years old) and a brand new mobile for my brother (who is 16 years old), but he did not bring anything for me. Guru, he always ignores me. Last year, when I got good grades he didn’t buy me anything. I don’t understand his indifferent and discriminatory attitude towards me. When I try to talk to him, he avoids me or just scolds me. I am really disappointed by his harsh behaviour. I am so hurt. I don’t think he loves me. Please tell me how I can persuade him to treat me equally.
Unfairly Treated Child
Dear Unfairly Treated Child,
Actually, your father does not do this on purpose. He himself is not aware that he has been unfair with you. Sometimes, parents unconsciously give more attention to some kids and ignore others. Your father is doing the same . He is not realising that his unfair attitude is creating problems for you. Having said that, don’t harbour negative thoughts about him. He is your father, he also loves you. He has given you all the luxuries of life and you are studying in a good school which means that he cares about you. Yes, I agree that his indifferent attitude is a source of mental agony for you. But, if you want to come out of that anguish, then instead of feeling bad about yourself just concentrate on improving your personality. Don’t judge your father’s love in terms of gifts only. Try to make place in your father’s heart with noble gestures. So what if he does not bring anything for you; you can still thank him for being gentle towards you. Don’t grumble; just stay calm. He will appreciate you for being so content. After some time, you will notice a considerable change in your father’s behaviour, too. Good luck!
I have a dark complexion
Salaam Guru,
I am an 18-year-old girl. I am studying in college. My problem is my skin colour. All my friends are fair whereas I am the one who is dark. I have attractive features, but I also have an inferiority complex as my friends make fun of me because of my skin tone. Someone suggested me to use fairness creams. What do you say?
Black Beauty
Dear Black Beauty,
I don’t think you need to use fairness creams. You are just fine. You are blessed with good skin and features. You are attractive and there is nothing for you to feel embarrassed about. Just be confident in your skin and don’t pay attention to the loser who has suggested the fairness cream. Good luck!
