He loves me, he loves me not
Salam Guru,
I am an 18-year-old girl studying in a prestigious engineering university. I am an average student, despite the fact that I take my studies very seriously. My problem, however, is that I am in love with one of my class fellows. He is very intelligent and decent and he also helps me with my studies. He motivates me to focus on my goal. Whenever I have a problem, he is there to help me. He is not very good looking but his good manners have won my heart. But the problem is that he is too shy to confess his love to me. He is also my Facebook friend and I think he genuinely likes me as he replies to me instantly. He says things which show that he really cares about me for instance, “Good morning,” “Have you had your breakfast,” “Stay blessed,” ‘Do not worry, keep smiling,” etc. But he is shy to the extent that he avoids looking at me. Guru, I am confused. Do you think he likes me. or is he just being nice with me?
Confused Girl
Dear Confused Girl,
According to you, this guy is very decent, intelligent and helpful. He has all the qualities of a good friend and he has proved it by being a good friend to you. However, don’t take his courteous behaviour too seriously. I think you should control your feelings as I have my doubts about him being interested in you. He may be shy but there are many ways to disclose one’s feelings. Had he been really interested in you, he would have sent you a love message. His harmless messages show that he does care about you but only as a friend and not as a lover. I think you should focus on your studies and forget about having a romantic relationship with him. It’s too early to say anything. If he has genuine feelings for you, you will get to know about it with the passage of time. Good luck!
This girl is driving me crazy
Hello Guru,
I am a 15-year-old ninth grader. I have been reading your column since a long time. My problem may not seem significant to you but for me it is very big. From the past two years I have been in love with a girl who is a non-Muslim and a student of Grade X. She doesn’t know who I am but she does know that there is a junior crazy for her. Guru, she has something which attracts me towards her - something apart from her looks. She is not like most of the girls in our school who make attempts to impress boys. Her mocks have recently ended and now her CIEs are approaching for which she will study at home and obviously won’t attend the school. Guru, I can’t wait till August to see her. I am worried! What would I do once she goes away? Guru, I don’t want to become a ‘Romeo’. I want to overcome my feelings for her. Please help me!
Romeo
Dear Romeo,
Calm down, little Romeo. You are only 15 and it’s just the beginning. Don’t take your first crush too seriously. You are only fascinated with the idea of falling in love. Normally, at your age, young boys do get attracted by girls who are older, but there is nothing to worry about. It’s just a temporary phase. Crushes normally fade away with the passage of time. You don’t need to do anything. Just enjoy your one-sided little romance as, by the time you will turn 16, I am sure some other girl will catch your fancy. Good luck!
I want to have some freedom
Hi Guru,
I am a 16-year-old girl, studying in Class 10 in a prestigious school. I belong to a well-off family. Guru, my problem is that my family is very strict. They do not allow me to go anywhere unescorted. I always have to go with a driver, accompanied with a guard, even to do my shopping. My class is going to French Beach for picnic next month. My father has given me permission to go on the condition that I should go in my own car. Guru, my class fellows are going in a bus. I want to go with them. How can I convince my father?
Spoiled Brat
Dear Spoiled Brat,
You should thank your father that despite being so strict he has allowed you to go on the picnic. I know it will be more fun if you go in a bus but, once you reach there, you can have fun with your friends at the breach. So, don’t spoil your good times over a trivial matter. And you can even ask one or two of your friends to come along and sit in your car. This will make your journey enjoyable too. Good luck!
