I am a female college teacher at one of the renowned colleges of our area. I love my students and take keen interest in their studies as well as their personal problems.
She needs my support
Salam Guru,
I am a female college teacher at one of the renowned colleges of our area. I love my students and take keen interest in their studies as well as their personal problems. Actually, my problem is one of our ex-students. She was a brilliant student, but was involved with boys and maintained bad company. Because of her immoral activities, she was banned from coming to our college. However, she was given permission to appear for her Board exams as a regular student from our college. Since she was my student I did not want to lose contact with her. So when she was leaving I gave her my mobile number in order to remain in touch with her.
Now she is in contact with me and she discusses her problems with me. She is not a bad person; she has family and psychological issues and she needs counselling. There is no one for her to talk to her and her parents neglect her. I always encourage her as I don’t want a bright student like her to be wasted like that, but my sister says that I should not trust her and should stop talking to her. According to her this girl may create problems for me. The On the other hand this girl is now very attached to me. She listens to my advice. I also love her. I am very confused. If I leave her, she may go into depression again. I think she needs my support but then I am afraid of my sister. I don’t know how she will react. What should I do? Should I continue talking to her or should I stop talking?
Confused Teacher
Dear Confused Teacher,
You seem like a very dedicated teacher who cares about her students and has a sympathetic attitude towards them. I wish all teachers think like you. Having said that, let’s come to your problem. I think your student needs you more than ever at this point. She is lonely, and has no friends. Her family ignores her and you seem like her only pal. If you also leave her then she will never be able to stand on her feet and may again resume her past activities. If you really want to help her out then this is the time to support her. She needs to get back her confidence. You can help her in bringing back to normal life. Don’t worry about your sister’s reaction. You are doing something really good and you should not be afraid of anyone. Just tell your sister that you are mature enough to handle your own problems. My advice: keep talking to her. Good luck!
I am in love with my driver
Dear Guru,
I am a 14-year-old girl. I am facing a dilemma. You see, Guru, I am stunningly beautiful. My driver says that I am very pretty. Unfortunately, all the boys in my class are outrageously ugly. They all are after me but I am not interested in anyone.
The other day I met a guy, T, in class. Although he is not very good looking, he is charming. I am kind of attracted towards him. I invited him to become my boyfriend but he said that he could only be my friend. Guru, I am very hurt by his indifferent attitude. How come he has rejected a beautiful girl like me? Now, I have realised that actually I am in love with my driver who is very handsome. I want to marry my driver. Please Guru, you have to help me. How am I going to explain this to my parents?
Stunning Damsel
Dear Stunning Damsel,
What should I say to a little girl who is so obsessed with her looks? First you need to understand that no one is ugly. If you are beautiful then there is nothing to be proud of. We are all creatures of God and He has made all of us. Be grateful to God for making you so pretty but don’t brag about it. Secondly, T is right. This is your age to study and not to make boyfriends. My dear, you are too young to fall in love in the first place.
You seem to be under the heavy influence of all these ‘filmi’ dramas, which is why you are thinking of marrying your handsome driver. Since you are at an impressionable age I don’t blame you for having such crazy ideas. Come on, you are just 14; you should not indulge in such activities. Baby, just forget about marrying your driver. This is not acceptable at all. Keep your feelings to yourself and don’t even try to talk to your parents about it. Control your emotions and concentrate on your studies. Good luck!
