My hubby does not give me time
I am a 22-year-old girl. I am newly married. My husband ‘H’ is a busy doctor. He is very caring but he does not have time for me. He is 34 years old and is quite serious and mature. Ours is an arranged marriage. I belong to a middle class family. My mother wanted me to get married to a well off guy as she did not want me to go through any hardships in life. According to her, financial worries kill a woman from inside. Guru, I understood her point of view and had no objection when I got H’s proposal, but little did I know that money is not everything. I have all the material comforts in life but I don’t have my husband’s love and attention. I am quite a pretty looking girl but my hubby hardly looks at me. I have been married for over a year now but we haven’t been to our honeymoon. H always says that he will take me to Europe whenever he gets holidays, but I don’t think the word ‘holiday’ is in his dictionary. Guru, I have all the freedom and I can go wherever I want. But now I am kind of fed up with shopping and eating out with my friends. We have servants in the house so there is nothing much for me to do. I crave for my husband’s company. Of late, I have started talking to a boy, M, just to kill time. M is very interesting to talk to but my husband does not know about it. We are just good friends. M has offered to take me out. I am very confused. Should I tell H about my new best friend M?
Dear Bored Wife,
We, human beings, are ungrateful by nature. My dear, if you look around you will find so many women living miserable lives. You, on the other hand, are so blessed. You are young, pretty and have a settled life with no in-laws issues. You see, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. You knew that you were marrying a busy doctor and it’s a known fact that doctors are busy people; so, deal with it instead of grumbling. Your only problem is that you have nothing to do. If you try to engage yourself in some productive activities then you won’t feel so bored. Take interest in household chores. At least you can supervise what’s going on in the house. If you are a graduate then try to take admission in university. Or do some short courses in whatever you are interested in, but don’t waste time. And stay away from M. He just wants to have good time at your expense as he knows you are vulnerable. Don’t cheat your husband. You are newly married; you need to work on your relationship and you need to be very patient. Don’t worry; H will take you out and give you company; it’s just a matter of time. Good luck!
I want to be a model
I read your column with great interest every Friday. I am a 19-year-old boy, studying in first year in a prestigious college. I am very good looking and girls just drool over me. Guru, recently I got an offer from a PR agency. One of their clients is looking for young and fresh boys for their upcoming product launch. The PR people approached me through a friend and they are offering me a handsome amount. I am willing to accept this lucrative and exciting offer but my father has some issues. According to him, I should concentrate on my studies and should not waste my time in such activities. Guru, I am so confused. I have 10 days to say yes or no. I want to avail this opportunity to become famous instantly. Please reply to me in your next issue as clock is ticking.
It seems so thrilling to be rich and famous at a young age and surely modelling gives one instant fame and money but, my dear, it is very short lived. There is hardly any scope for male models in Pakistan. In fashion weeks the number of female models is much greater than male models. However, there is no harm in trying modelling for a change. It will boost your confidence. Persuade your father to allow you to do modelling only once when he is in a good mood. But don’t think about becoming a professional model now; it’s better if you concentrate on your studies. Good luck
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