I live in my own world
I have recently started reading your column. You give the best possible solutions. I am kind of an introvert person who always likes his own company. I can't talk to people openly; I feel like they are there to undermine me. There are some people whom I talk to but I don't feel comfortable talking to them about my problems. I somehow can’t share my inner thoughts with anyone. I feel so lonely. Tell me, is this normal to be an introvert or something is wrong with me? How can I improve myself? Do you have any suggestions?
Broadly speaking, there are two types of people in this world, introverts and extroverts. However, no one is completely an introvert or an extrovert. Every person has some traits of both the categories. So, don’t worry, with a little bit of effort you can easily improve your interpersonal skills. First of all, develop a positive attitude. Don’t feel ashamed of being an introvert. It is something natural, and doesn’t mean you are in any way less than others. Once you develop this feeling, it will encourage you to speak confidently in front of others. Don’t hesitate in giving your piece of mind while in a discussion. Find ways of socially interacting with the world. You have to make a conscious effort to mingle with people, whether you like it or not as you cannot afford to remain aloof from the world. Make plans with your friends, go on a movie, go for coffee. These are the small steps that you have to take in order to get out of your shell. Good luck!
He has ditched me
I simply love your column. I am an 18-year-old girl, studying in one of the prestigious colleges of Karachi. I have a steady boyfriend, M. We have been in a relationship for three years. Initially, he was very loving towards me but now he has changed. He often talks to other girls and if I try to stop him, he says that I should mind my own business. Since I love him intensely, I can’t leave him. Now, he has told me that he will not marry me. Guru, I am so upset. I cannot marry someone else. I feel so dejected. There is nothing left for me in this world now.
Please help me.
Gal in Love
Dear Gal in Love,
Come on, young girl, don’t feel so sad. Right now, you are being emotional. The world does not revolve around M. You are only 18 and your life has just started. This is your age to learn new things and discover life. Get a life, girl. He is not worth your love and tears. That guy is a loser. You are too young to think about serious issues like marriage. Today you are thinking you cannot live without M but tomorrow when you are busy with your own things, you won’t even remember that there was once a boy named M in your life. Good luck!
My best friend has changed
I am a regular reader of your column. I am a 21-year-old university student. I am brilliant in studies and have no interest in girls as I am very focused and serious about my future. My problem is related to my best friend who is inclined towards girls. He was just like me a year ago. But since we have taken admission in university, he has started spending most of his time with girls. He tends to enjoy their company and ignores mine. According to him, I am very old fashioned. Guru, I want to protect my friend from women. What should I do to get back my best buddy?
A Concerned Friend
Dear Concerned Friend,
In every guy’s life there is a phase comes when he starts taking interest in girls. It’s not strange if your friend is more attracted towards girls. Come on, be a sport. Try to understand your friend’s situation. I think you are being very emotional and possessive about your friendship. Your friend is not ignoring you, it’s just that now he likes to spend more time with girls. Take it in your stride. And if you are not comfortable with his attitude then it’s better if you resolve the issue amicably instead of sulking in silence. You don’t need to pretend, just confront your friend and tell him how you actually feel. I am sure the two of you can come to a logical conclusion. Good luck!
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