The 4 ‘attachment styles,’ and how they sabotage your work-life balance

Your better mind knows exactly how to manage your time better at work but a primal, seemingly uncontrollable urge to do the opposite overtakes you.

You know you should say no when you’re asked to take on that new project, but you say yes.

If you are frustrated with your seemingly irrational behaviour, the root issue may be deep subconscious programming known as your “attachment style.”

Your attachment style dictates how you relate to other people, particularly in situations that trigger stress.

Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

A fear of upsetting others drives individuals with an anxious preoccupied attachment style. This fear-based approach leads to counterproductive behaviours — for example, struggling with a compulsion to check email incessantly to make sure everything is “O.K.”

Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

Individuals with dismissive avoidant attachment at work tend to think they are smart and everyone else is stupid. They most likely decide what they should do and then ignore what others want. This leads to conflict and mistrust.

Fearful Avoidant Attachment

“Stuck” is the best word to describe those with a fearful avoidant attachment style. They have the fear of those with anxious attachment without the confidence that they can make things right. Someone with a fearful avoidant attachment style would see an email, freak out about it and then never open it. They fear bad outcomes so strongly that they never discover if the email from a client was simply an F.Y.I. or a full-out tirade.

Secure Attachment

Those with a secure attachment style at work take tasks as they come, do what they can and address issues that come up easily. They work hard and do not fear saying no when they feel they need to. They know they are capable, and they are confident that others will respond well to them.

A good sleep can make you look younger

Seven or eight hours of sleep is ideal for most of us. More than that can mean we wake up looking puffy and feeling sluggish.

Chronic lack of sleep, or poor-quality sleep, has an incredibly negative effect on the way we feel - and on the way we look.

When we are asleep, our cells rebuild and repair themselves (the growth hormone functions only at night). If you don't sleep, this function is impaired.

If you sleep badly, you are likely to become stressed, and this can cause the capillaries to tighten up, affecting the flow of nutrients to the skin and scalp and causing the skin and hair to look dull.

Cellular renewal of our skin is fastest at night, and this is why we are told night creams can work wonders.

But the fact is, nothing will help our looks if we don't get the quality of sleep we need.

Compiled by Usama Rasheed