I am a 24-year-old young man. I have been reading your magazine since I was 14 and now I am hooked to it.
I have big dreams
Dear Guru,
I am a 24-year-old young man. I have been reading your magazine since I was 14 and now I am hooked to it. I am a fresh MBA and I am working in a multi-national bank as junior executive. I belong to a middle-class family and I happen to be quite ambitious.
Guru, my problem is that I want to progress fast. I want to earn a lot of money and move to the elite class. To achieve this goal, I must get married to a girl from an elite family. Since I am young, smart and intelligent, girls are attracted towards me. But, I am not interested in any one of them as most of them are from humble backgrounds. I am looking for someone who can support me in making my dreams come true. There is this colleague of mine, R, who is in love with me but again this is only one-sided. My friends say that I should marry her as she can be a very good wife. However, I don’t want to marry R as she is also from a middle-class family. In fact, I have met just the sort of girl who can help me realise my dream. K, who has recently joined our office, is the niece of my boss. She is young, pretty and well-off. She has a strong background and is exactly the type I have been looking for. I have been thinking about proposing to her. Do you think she will say yes? Please reply soon, as I am really anxious.
Mr. T
Dear Mr. T,
It’s good to know that you are ambitious and there is no harm in wanting to elevate your lifestyle. Everyone has a right to progress in life. However, the way you want to achieve your dreams is totally wrong. It is really sad to know that instead of relying on your own hard work, you want to get everything served on a silver platter. Just remember that there are no short cuts in life and nothing comes free in life.
Do you think the girl’s family would deem this marriage proposal appropriate for their daughter? Won’t they question your intentions for a single moment? Do you think they will give you respect knowing that you belong to a middle-class family and are marrying their daughter primarily for her wealth? Surely such a match, should they agree to it, would not be without certain conditions and I don’t think a man of dignity would ever choose to live like a puppet. I have seen so many marriages which ended on a bitter note as they were based on material things. Don’t make the mistake of proposing to K. She is from a different background. And mind you, usually girls and boys from upper-class families marry within their own circle. It only happens in movies where a rich girl falls for a poor boy or vice versa. I think you should consider R who loves you and cares about you. Money is not everything. Remember the saying: marry someone who loves you, don’t marry the one you love. Rest is up to you. Good luck!
I want to be a model
Hi Guru,
I am an 18-year-old girl and I am studying in one of the prestigious colleges of Karachi. My father is a doctor and my mom is a housewife. I am the only sister of three older brothers and I am very pampered and everyone loves me. My friends also adore me. They say that I am very beautiful and I should pursue modeling as a career. Guru, I am a fashionista; my wardrobe is full of designer dresses, bags, shoes and accessories. When I go out in evenings all decked up, people ask me if I am a model. I get so many compliments that I am seriously considering to become a model. However, when I talked to my mother about it, she became angry. She strictly told me to forget about it and said that I should concentrate on my studies. Guru, I am so upset. My mother has never scolded me and now she is being so strict with me. She says that if I don’t change my mind, she will not allow me to go out. What should I do?
Vanity Girl
Dear Vanity Girl,
A majority of young girls nowadays are attracted by the glitz and glamour of the fashion world. What they don’t realize is that there is a lot of hard work behind this glamour. You may be beautiful, but it does not mean you should be a model; one has to think about the pros and cons of anything before making a decision. It is a common misconception in our society that whoever has a pretty face can become a model. Modeling is a serious profession and it has its own demands. You need to have a certain kind of poise and attitude to be a model. Listen to your mom. She is right. This is your age to study and concentrate on your future. Just be content with the compliments and stay happy. Good luck!
