My friend has changed
I am a 22-year-old graduate girl, and I work in a private firm. I joined this firm as a fresh graduate some two years ago. My colleagues are really nice and they all are friendly with me. My problem is related to my best friend in office, T, who is two years senior to me. Initially, she was very nice with me and helped me a lot in adjusting with the office environment. But, of late, I have noticed a considerable change in her behaviour. We used to have lunch together but now she avoids eating lunch with me. We used to go for shopping together (after office hours) but now she makes excuses not to come along, and often hangs out with other friends. Apparently, she is having an affair with another colleague of ours – F. I have nothing to do with her personal life but I want my old friend back. I don’t know why she has changed. I am badly hurt. I don’t know what to do.
Dear Dejected D,
I can understand your dilemma but you need to understand that at workplace nobody is your friend. You can’t blame T for ditching you. It was you who assumed T was your best friend. My dear, she was never your friend. It was naive on your part to have high expectations from her. Dear, welcome to the practical world. People come and go but life goes on. Don’t feel sad about it. If she does not want to spend time with you, then let it be. Take it in your stride. Act sensibly. Spend time with your other colleagues. Your world should not revolve around her. Just treat her as your co-worker and silently move forward.
I am so anxious
I am a 16-year-old boy. I belong to a middle-class family. My father is a government employee whereas my mother is a housewife. I have two more siblings. Guru, I am in love with a very pretty girl. She is my age, but the problem is that she is clueless of my feelings. She is friendly with me but I don’t know whether she has feelings for me or not. I want to tell her how much I love her but I am reluctant about disclosing my feelings to her. I am so confused. I know this is my age to study but I need to know whether she likes me or not. I am so anxious. I don’t know what to do.
Dear Wired Boy,
At your age falling in love is common. The girl you are attracted to may or may not have feelings for you. The best way to deal with this situation is to muster your courage and reveal your feelings to her. If she is interested, well and good; if not, you cannot force her to like you. So, be mentally prepared. Having said that, I advise you to focus on your studies. You are too young to fall in love. And, by the way, what you perceive as love could be infatuation, which does not last very long and fades away with the passage of time. Good luck!
I want to be a successful doctor
I am an ardent fan of your column. I am an 18-year-old girl. I want to be a professional doctor. But the problem is that whenever I go to a hospital, so that they (hospital management) can take my interview, they reject me. I don’t understand why the hospitals are not allowing me to work. I am so worried about my future. I cannot sleep properly. Becoming a successful doctor is my dream. Please Guru, tell me what I should do.
Dear unsuccessful Doctor,
I really appreciate your passion for becoming a successful doctor but do you have an MBBS degree? Has anybody told you that in order to be a doctor you need to study in a professional medical college for five years? And before that one needs to clear the entrance exam? You didn’t specify in your letter whether you are/were a student of pre-medical. My dear, it’s not rocket science to understand why any hospital does not want to take your interview. Dream high but for that you need to study hard. First get your MBBS degree then only would you be eligible to do house job in the hospital. Good luck!
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