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Wednesday April 17, 2024

This is your guide to finding true love: Actionable tips

Chicago woman finds boyfriend, confidence and self-awareness after finding her expensive love coach

By Web Desk
March 23, 2024
Andrea says her love guru is expensive but worth taking advice from. The author with her boyfriend, Jason, celebrating their third holiday season together (December 2023).COURTESY OF ANDREA JAVOR
Andrea says her love guru is expensive but worth taking advice from. The author with her boyfriend, Jason, celebrating their third holiday season together (December 2023).COURTESY OF ANDREA JAVOR

Are you tired of your disappointing situation after you failed at finding love?  

If you are disappointed in the pursuit of finding love, meet Andrea Javor, a Chicago-based writer who has some valuable pieces of advice to share with you in her article in Huffpost

After being divorced twice and a string of failed relationships, she was still looking for true love at the age of 40. Andrea found herself at a crossroads. 

At this moment, she decided to hire a dating coach Bela Gandhi for ,000. With the help of Bela, she found true love in the form of Jason. Andrea said that she felt a lot more confident with Bela's tips.

Bela taught her various techniques including creating a strong dating profile, filtering dates based on red flags, pink flags and beige flags and focusing on finding someone who elevates her. 

After following Bela's coaching, Andrea met Jason and they are now living together. 

Andrea thinks the dating coach was expensive, but says it was worth it because she learned so much about herself.  

Here are some key takeaways from Bela's advice:

Focus on quality over quantity: 

Instead of endlessly swiping through dating apps, limit your time to 15 minutes a day and focus on replying to promising messages. 

Revamp your profile: 

Create a profile with professional photos and a bio that showcases your confidence and best qualities.

Redefine what you’re looking for: 

Don't settle for a generic list of characteristics. Identify the qualities that truly matter and will make you feel like your best self. 

Look out for red flags: 

Learn to recognise red flags like dealbreakers, pink flags like annoying habits, and beige flags like seemingly insignificant quirks that could become problems later.

  • Red Flags: These are the big dealbreakers, the clear signs of incompatibility or unhealthy behaviour. Examples could be anger issues, lying, disrespect for boundaries, or addiction. 
  • ​Pink Flags: These are less serious than red flags, but still something to keep an eye on. The pink flags are annoying habits that can become a source of trouble for you later in life. For example, someone who gambles frequently might be a pink flag, depending on the severity and impact on their life. 
  • Beige Flags: These are the most subtle and might seem insignificant at first. They represent potential compatibility issues but don't necessarily signal a dead end. An example could be a messy person dating someone who is extremely neat. While this difference can be worked through, it's something to consider for long-term compatibility.   

Build a connection first: 

Hold off on intimacy for at least three months to weed out those solely interested in physical connection. 

Project confidence: 

Approach dates with a positive attitude and focus on enjoying yourself rather than desperately seeking commitment.