We are two girls in our last year of O’ levels. At the beginning of our term, we had a new male teacher of about 30 years. He is very graceful and humorous and often cracks jokes in class, so we all enjoy his classes.
Dear Nadine,
We are two girls in our last year of O’ levels. At the beginning of our term, we had a new male teacher of about 30 years. He is very graceful and humorous and often cracks jokes in class, so we all enjoy his classes. He is married and has two children. There is a girl, D, in our class. D seems to be attracted towards him. This is obvious from her behaviour during his class. D is always blushing when he talks to her, or asks her a question. Now, the problem is that he also noticed her behaviour and has started flirting with D. It is obviously not right as he is almost double our age, and on top of that our teacher. Is there a way we can stop our friend D from making a fool out of herself? On the other hand, other girls tease D, because they have all noticed her behavior. Do you think this teasing will harm her in any way or affect her behaviour negatively?
Two True Friends
Dear Two True Friends,
It is good to see that both of you are so concerned about your friend D, but you should not worry too much. In all girls schools, male teachers are a novelty and girls do have a tendency of becoming overwhelmed if these male teachers happen to be good looking as well. D is simply star struck at the moment and hopefully will get over it. However, it‘s the teacher who should know better and have some principles. Instead of enjoying the situation, he should ignore her behaviour and treat her like other girls, but his moral compass is skewed. It does not matter whether he is double or triple your age; he is your teacher and must maintain the nobility of his position. All you can do is to try to talk to D and make her understand that he is your teacher, and a married guy with children of his own, so she should not become serious about him. Good luck!
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