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Fri, 05, 22

According to him, it’s good fun but there is no scope for DJs in Pakistan. I am quite confused. What should I do?

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I want to be a DJ

Salam Guru,

I am a 21-year-old boy. I have been reading Us magazine since I was in grade 8. I am a bright student. I just finished my BBA and have plans to take admission in IBA to do MBA. My father is a businessman and he wants me to help him with his business after I finish my studies. But Guru, to be very honest I am not interested in taking care of my father’s business. I have some other plans; I want to be a DJ. I have always been passionate about music and dj-ing. My friends like my choice of music and I have been playing music at private parties. Now, I want to be a professional DJ. However, my father is not in favour of me becoming a professional DJ. According to him, it’s good fun but there is no scope for DJs in Pakistan. I am quite confused. What should I do?

DJ Max

Dear DJ Max,

I think your father is right. Sadly, dj-ing is still not a mainstream and financially stable career in Pakistan. There are only few professional DJs who are producing good stuff and you can count them on your fingers. Turhan James is one of them. According to Turhan, “The market doesn’t support our industry as much as we’d like and that’s primarily due to the negative stigma our genre has associated to it. So doing a show at scale is incredibly difficult to pull off.” So when a DJ like Turhan finds it difficult, how difficult it could be for you? I suggest you keep playing music at private parties but leave the idea of becoming a professional DJ at the moment. Complete your MBA first and then decide what you want to do in life. May be after few years your mind will change or may be people will start accepting dj-ing as a growing new profession. Good luck!

My sister has snatched my love

Dear Guru,

I am a 22-year-old girl, and a regular reader of your column. I have been in love with my neighbor, Z for about four years. Z is 26 and is well-settled. We were like best friends and he shared everything with me. Last month, he told me that he would send his parents to our home. I was very happy. Last week, in last days of Ramazan, his parents came over but I was shocked to know that instead of asking for my hand, they asked for my sister R’hand. R is two years older to me. My parents gladly accepted the proposal. My sister seems very happy. I felt terrible, but couldn’t say a word. How could I tell my parents that I like Z? I had a very sad Eid. On the first day of Eid, Z’s parents came with a formal proposal and gave Eidi to my sister. When I confronted Z, he said that he actually loved R and he was never romantically inclined towards me. He always treated me as a good friend. I am very upset. All these years I thought Z loved me but he did not. It’s really difficult for me to accept this reality. I feel jealous of my sister. Sometimes I feel she has snatched Z from me. What should I do to stop this marriage? I am sad and angry at the same time.

Sad Susan

Dear Sad Susan,

I can understand your feelings and my sympathies are with you but, dear, you cannot blame your sister for snatching Z from you. Actually, Z was never yours. You assumed that he loved you and it was not Z’s fault that you thought that way. He always treated you as a friend and you misunderstood him. When you are in love, you become sort of blind and cannot think straight, so I don’t blame you, either. I know you are hurt from inside but, believe me, time is a great healer. Don’t even think about stopping this marriage. My dear, love is two-way traffic. You cannot force any one to fall in love with you. It’s something natural. Now, that both are unofficially engaged, you should also accept this relationship wholeheartedly. Be happy in their happiness. You seem like a good girl. Get rid of your negative thoughts. Besides, you never know what God has in store for you. Maybe you will find a much better guy than Z. So just chill. Good luck!

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