I am caught between marriage and career
Salam Guru,
I am a 21-year-old boy. I am doing Masters in English Literature and want to atempt CSS exams after completing my Masters. I have been reading Us magazine since I was a student of FSc. This is the first time I am writing to you in the hope that you will not disappoint me. Actually, I have been in love with M for the past two years and recently we got engaged. The problem which has made my life miserable is that I want to study more, whereas M is in a hurry to get married soon. Now, I am very confused; should I get married or study? What should I do?
Cat Lover
Dear Cat Lover,
You are only 21 and there is ample time for you to get married. Tell your fiancée to wait till you complete your education. There shouldn’t be any rush. I don’t understand why your fiancée is pressuring you to get married. Doesn’t she know that one also needs money and a sound career in order to survive after marriage? So, think with your mind and not your heart. Good luck!
I want to get close to her
Hi Guru,
I am an 18-year-old boy and am studying in one of the prestigious colleges of Peshawar. My problem is that I want to be friends with a girl who is in our college, but I don’t know how to start a conversation with her. I like the girl very much but she seems oblivious of my presence. Please help me.
Fake Boy
Dear Fake Boy,
There is nothing wrong if you like a girl. It is natural to be attracted by the opposite sex. But, dear, when this girl seems indifferent then why do you want to be friends with her in the first place? Have some self respect. Just forget about that girl. Try to mingle with people who are fond of you. It’s always better to make friends who are also like you and with whom you are comfortable with. Good luck!
I cannot decide my future
Salam Guru,
I am an 18-year-old girl. I am a student of BSc. I have chosen Psychology, Statistics and Math. These are my favourite subjects. But, Guru, there is a confusion. I have no idea what I should do in future. Can you suggest which field will be better for me? Should I become a psychologist or a chartered accountant?
Confused Gal
Dear Confused Gal,
This is tricky, as you like all three subjects. But now you have to think hard which subject appeals to you most. Psychology is an interesting subject as it helps you in understanding human beings better. On the other hand, if you are good in math and statistics then there is nothing like it as you can make a lucrative career if you do CA. Don’t forget that chartered accountants are in demand. So, ultimately, the choice is yours. Good luck!
Will I survive?
Dear Guru,
I am 23 years old, and I am doing my LLB. I am getting engaged soon to a guy I have been in a relationship with for the past five years. He is 24. My father is very happy as the boy is from a good family and he is a medical student. He is in his final year of MBBS. The problem is that one of my heart valves is blocked and I will be going through an open heart surgery. My boyfriend is very supportive but I have been having negative thoughts about this operation. What if I don’t survive the surgery? This is just one of the thoughts that I’m sharing. I have told my boyfriend to move on with his life if I die. My mother had been through this surgery and she died and my father still misses her. He has been living a very sad and quiet life after my mother’s departure and I don’t want that to happen to my boyfriend. He tells me to stay positive and have positive thoughts but I am worried about him as we are more than just lovers; we are best friends.
S
Dear S,
Just relax. Don’t feel gloomy and depressed. As believers, it is our faith that life is God’s hands. So be positive; nothing is going to happen to you. You must have a strong will to fight, and I have this feeling that you are going to live a happy life with your fiancé. You are lucky to have such a supportive family and best friend. It’s good to be practical, but don’t give up hope. Don’t compare your fate with your mother’s. It was in her destiny to live as long as she did, and we cannot predict what’s in store for us. Leave it to God and stay calm. Good luck!