Alan Ritchson opens up about feeling not 'worthy of love’ post-divorce from childhood sweetheart
Alan Ritchson filed for divorce from his wife, Catherine after being married for 20 years
Alan Ritchson reflected on not feeling “worthy of love” amid his divorce from estranged wife Catherine Ritchson.
The 43-year-old Reacher star, who announced his split from Catherine this month, filmed himself shirtless as he told his audience, “Today I want to talk about learning to love yourself.”
The father-of-three referred to his contemplation as “post sauna clarity” as he recalled growing up in a household where his mother would scold him for getting attention from others.
“My mother would notice I got a lot of attention effortlessly, without trying. As a kid, people would just, they'd approach us and [say] ‘look at him’ and ‘oh he's so cute,’” Alan recalled.
“In my ear, she'd whisper, ‘It's not all about you,’” he said.
The actor continued, “[There was] this reduction of myself when I wasn't even trying to get attention. And so you hear that enough times, and you start to feel like, I'm not only not worthy of love, but I'm not supposed to be loved. And you carry that into adulthood.”
Coming to the topic of self-love and how it can be messy sometimes, as a person heals from hurt, Alan said in his video, “What does it look like when we don't love ourselves? We're constantly escaping into some other thing that ultimately reduces us into a lower vibrational state of ourselves.”
“You know, the world bombards us with so many messages, each day, about how we're not quite enough, right?” he went on.
Furthermore, the Runner star mentioned, “If we just bought this thing or if we were not sober we'd be more fun, more relational, we’d be better friends, you know? If we had this or that material thing we’d be worth more to the world and more worthy of love, right? It's kind of the message that capitalism teaches us and it’s hard in western cultures to get rid of that lie.”
He wrapped up his video musings by telling his followers, “You're enough, and I am too. We're worthy of love.”
Meanwhile, the video clip was captioned, “To whoever needs to hear this…” and has so far garnered more than 200,000 likes.
In mid-September, Alan Ritchson revealed that he and Catherine decided to separate after a 20-year marriage announcing the shocking news via a joint social media post.
